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Don't do motherhood without God

 If you are a mom or an expecting mother, then by now you have probably heard it you know what I mean "you will never be fully prepared you just learn as you go." I'd say that quote alone says it all. if you're embarking on a journey where your life experience and what you've learned before motherhood  has no bearing on how you'll find your grips when it comes to motherhood then the best thing you can do for yourself and your child is to go into it with God start your motherhood journey with the one that calls us to be fruitful and multiply we cannot do this job well without the Lord.

I think the greatest thing about wisdom is that it's teachable its information gathered by somebody who usually made a mistake or have seen one made I've been on this motherhood journey for 11 years I started it Out of wedlock as a teenager and without God. The complications I experienced were many. Usually, I spare you guys the details. Today I'm going to share. At the age of seventeen I lost my mother. By 18 I was pregnant with my first born at 19 I gave birth and by the age of 20 I was married and at 23 years old I was divorced.

I knew I was unprepared to be a mom at such a young age, but I was looking for someone to love me.

I know so selfish. but in my case, it's a perfect example of how starting anything without the lord especially as important as motherhood Can lead to disasters. I've made a lot of mistakes I've hurt a lot of feelings. I've cried a lot of tears and I've been the reason behind many. I had no idea what I was doing wrong I had no idea what I was supposed to be doing right. My blueprint was what my mother showed me, and, in my opinion, I thought I was doing pretty well until I started doing life with the Lord and he showed me my heart and how I made pretty much every decision Hastily with myself in mind.

Now a child looking for love from a child might sound absurd to you but for me it was logical God revealed that my heart was broken there was a lot of darkness in my heart.  Not only was I selfish but I lacked compassion for others. I had good intentions I just didn't know how to act on those well intended thoughts I wasn't emotionally intelligent, nor did I know how to practically be a good mom I wasn't spiritually fed. I pretty much was starting from scratch.   

 Now let me tell you what the Lord did for me.

one day I prayed a prayer asking the lord for help specifically with my children I was 8 years into motherhood with three children at the time and I was in way over my head, and I just felt I tried everything, and I needed his help I needed a miracle.

The physical and mental load I was experiencing was great and I just was at the end of myself. The lord allowed me to lay my burden at his feet and called me to trust him to help me through the tough situations. 

you may be wondering what that tough situation was, but I feel like this idea of trusting God comes in many situations maybe it's with your health could be with a disobedient child it could be with a lack of self-discipline, it could be selfishness. Whatever the situation may be God calls us to lay it at his feet and when he answers the prayer, he might shake life up a bit for you but it's all so that you can learn to trust him.

 Motherhood is no cake walk, we as moms need to look to the Lord to be our strength to help us carry out the tough situations the burdens the overwhelming thoughts and to teach us the ways of the Lord to teach us how to be nurturing to teach us how to be selfless to teach us how to serve and for us to be exactly who he has called us to be as moms.

Keeping God first gave me a clarity that I can't explain he shows me practical ways daily that I can be better and focused being in the present. I read the Bible, and it gives me insight and how a mother is supposed to conduct herself. I learned by being loved on by the Lord how to love on my children. It's so easy to get trapped in our lack.  We start to feel stuck like there's no way out but there is the Lord is the only way and his Bible his word is the truth. The Bible says from your belly will flow rivers of living water and I believe that's the nourishment that he gives to us that we give to our children when we give birth to our children we our birthing God's light into the world it's our job to nurture that light there's only one way to do that and its  by partnering with the Lord so I encourage you to embark on this journey of motherhood


and allow God to illuminate the way He is worthy.


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